Tuesday, July 18, 2006

One year Later

Hello All—

Well, as of yesterday, we have made it through the first year since Kari’s accident.  It went by without much difficulty or difference from our normal Monday.  I think that after going through the accident, living through the accident is a piece of cake.  When I picked Kari up from church yesterday (she does counseling for women on Mondays) I was talking to pastor Rick about the accident and trying to explain how I felt about it now.  It’s funny, but even going through the whole thing, I, like so many others have told me, cannot even imagine how horrible it was.  I try to remember the impact of the car hitting the ditch and then hitting the ground, the feeling of not being able to breath at first, being trapped under the car watching Kari struggle to breathe, and wondering when help would arrive.  Kari told me last night that if they had taken even another minute to get her out she doesn’t think she would’ve made it.  It was chaos, but in slow motion too.  As much as I try to remember exactly how it felt though, I can’t.  I can remember the events exactly, just not all of the feelings.  At the very least it takes a lot of concentration to try to remember—that’s probably a good thing, but as much as we think about what happened, it can be a little unsettling to be detached from your own memory.  When we think of it now, we both describe it as like being in a bad movie, and that it seems like it was us in a different life—or something like that.  Anyways, yesterday was sort of a milestone, and I am so proud of Kari for making it through the first year.  Even though I can’t believe that its already been a whole year, my memories of the times before the accident seem like forever ago.  An even bigger deal though is our 4th anniversary that will be on Thursday (20th).  Its hard to believe that we’ve been only married this short time (in a good way!) because its seems like we’ve always just been together (we started dating 9 years ago).  


P.S.  We will be coming to Chicagoland over Labor Day weekend for a wedding and are planning a big party so we can see everybody on Sunday or Monday—check back for details.


Katie (Bost) Heuer said...

Aaron and Kari,
We are proud of the way BOTH of you have made it through this year! I think God has a way of helping us forget all of the feelings so that we can get through difficult times yet still allows us to remember "the events". Glad you had a "normal" day yesterday and decided to share your thoughts with us.
Happy Anniversary (a few days early)!! We are looking forward to seeing you in September!
Love you,
Katie and Ty

Diane Brodeen said...

Hi, Kari & Aaron! Thanks for the update. So happy for all the answered prayer, and how Kari is able to continue to use her ministry gifts to counsel women. Happy Anniversary!
Diane Brodeen, Riverside

John said...

Happy 4th Anniversary!!!!

Looking forward to seeing you two in Oregon tomorrow!

Love ya!


Franki said...

Happy Anniversary, Aaron and Kari! It's hard to believe that was four years ago today that we were in St. Charles for your wedding. I admire your committment to each other and your committment to Christ.
Anyway, I just wanted to drop you guys a line and let you know I was thinking of you today! Love you!

Anonymous said...

We can do anything thru Christ,
Happy Anniversary, God Bless You Both,
Debbie Ford

Mr. Steffen said...

Dear Kari and Aaron,
Marla and I were so blessed in reading the newspaper article about you two today. It was very inspirational and moving.
Happy Anniversary!
Richard and Marla Steffen
Riverside Poly High School
Matthew Gage Middle School
First Baptist Church of Redlands

Anonymous said...

FYI (for your information), I just did some figuring and this web-site has gotten 175 hits/day, on an average for the last year. The first 5 months it was up to about 500/day. That seems to me, to be soooooooooooooooo many hits (people visiting this site) it's wonderful. That means many people are interested and are popping in and out of this site to get caught up on the life and times of our beloved Kari and Aaron. Blessing sent from the George Gang Love Kim R-G Happy 4th

Charlie + said...

Dear Kari + Aaron,

I guess I am still stunned. I just haven't been able to write a comment yet. Nine years means a lot to me, as so many of those years we spent together so closely. And, of course, the four years of marriage are so special, too. Still, you pretty much left town about the same time you married, and had a great deal of life out of my reach.

Difficult as things are, I still come back to how close we came to losing really both of you, and we have you, and I celebrate that. I still have my little bible you both signed the day you left. I bring that with me on my daily bike rides, stopping at parks to read. So special to see your handwriting right there, looking just the same as it does on all the photo copies of our music for Praise band...

Spirit is what counts. The externals support that of course, but even now, I see you having plenty of externals... Blessings...


Charlie +

Anonymous said...

i just read about it in the news papper lastnight i couldnt beleave my eyes but i could see that you stayed very strong keep it up happy one year aniverserylove destini

Jan Barrett said...

Daer Aaron and Kari,
We have been keeping abreast of your acativities and are so glad that you ahd a normal day on the 17th. I rememberyour accident day as it is also my mom's birthday. God has seen you through so much and we are all blessed with God's power of love.
Mom Barrett, and Dad